Whether you are currently in a couple, or ever were in one… I am sure this question crossed your mind.
At least, if you were seriously committed to the relationship.
We usually don’t like to show weakness. During those heated arguments, we tend to stick to our guns. No matter how wrong we really think we are, we just keep fighting right on.
This is not even limited to romantic relationship; this happens to us in EVERY fight.
But inside our heads, outside the fight… we know, “the person I am fighting with, and me… are the same.”
We may come from different geographies, may be of different ages, may be from different races or even genders… but deep down inside.. we know, that we are all the same.
Especially when we are in love with someone… they become a part of us. We wish to do right by them, love them right, treat them right, and we just want to see them happy.
However, there are sometimes these painful moments, where our partners hold us guilty of certain behaviours. This mostly leads to broken dishes, or skulls (kidding).
So when all the fighting is done and over.. we tend to wonder.. “Was what he/she saying right? Do I really do that? Do I really need to change? Am I not a good friend/lover/spouse/sibling/parent?”
But how do we know if the complaint is just, or just cribbing?
“Do you think if there was a clone of you, and you were dating that clone, the relationship would work with that habit in tact?”
If the answer is yes, you’re fine. But if the answer is no, buddy some introspection is in order.